The Scarcity Lie.

Why do most of us have defeatist beliefs about money ?

It comes down to the fact that a large percentage of the population in any given society in the western world were brought up with a scarcity mindset. We see scarcity all around us and within the family units if we come from not so well off backgrounds. Most of us lived it and breathed it as we were growing up and took on these negative beliefs automatically, and without question.

We were also taught to believe that poor was good and rich was bad, and as a consequence, we went on to assume that people in poorer neighbourhoods were nicer people. However from my own personal experience that is not necessarily true. These false beliefs mentioned become the governing paradigms of many people as they are growing and developing. Added to that what culminates further is hatred of money and a worshipping of a poverty mindset.

A lot of us were conditioned to think that people who live in poverty are nicer people, but that in itself has proven to be false to me, when i think of all the people i have ever met in my life to this day. In truth there is actually nothing wrong with money but we were taught that money has the power to corrupt anyone and make them bad people but again, that is not a truth that deserves to be carved in stone.

Our paradigms then become thicker and toxic when we see people win lottery competitions, or people from wealthy stock winning large sums of money and we then go back to the ingrained reference point we inherited from our guardians, assuming such competitions are fixed and are one horse races. The reality of it is this;

When it comes to money most of us were programmed in the wrong way.

We were conditioned to have poverty mindsets. To be able to break this belief like any other you first have to find out the very reasons why you have the belief in the first place, because that is how you begin to change a belief. There is no use trying to install a new belief on top of old beliefs when you have not delved into looking at why you have the destructive beliefs to begin with. This scarcity mindset that there is not enough to go round immediately gets in the way of many people’s progress, and as said above, this faulty program needs to be undone.

The job of the mainstream media and the establishment.

The media constantly compound us with negative messages about scarcity and why there’s supposedly not enough to go round, but the real caveat in such messages for me is this;

Those at the very top of the tree who demand the media to deliver negative messages of scarcity to the masses are not living or experiencing scarcity themselves, and that is one of the biggest ironies that there is.

What such individuals desire is that most of the population on a global basis continue to resent money and people who have it, and they know that it creates a psychological barrier to making any. You have to remember that these given individuals are experts at human psychology.

Reality check

If scarcity really existed there would be no wealthy people anyway, so scarcity is a lie in itself that is heavily promoted to the masses by media propaganda. Unfortunately humanity soaks up such information like a sponge, that is why when you are making an effort to break the poverty mindset you will encounter opposing mindsets that will try to automatically counteract your efforts to break the destructive paradigm of poverty and this is psychologically infectious in every society where, collectively you have a population of people on a mass level with ( The not enough to go round mentality)

Again guys and girls get it into your heads;

If there wasn’t enough to go round wealthy people would not exist.

Humanity has been lied to and conned for millennia and can’t you see that we are all moving on a conveyor belt that has been built on a very big lie ?

This belief of not being able to win and never getting ahead has collectively mutated in most societies in an alarming way. Now to end this article let me summarise some key points to you in the hope that it will help you weaken your destructive beliefs about money;

  • Not all wealthy people are crooks.
  • Not all poor people are good people.
  • The poverty mindsets that people are given creates more crime and misery.
  • Money is just paper that can be easily printed.
  • Even if they stopped printing money it can still be used invisibly.
  • So how can it be scarce?
  • It’s not like oil or anything resourceful that can be stripped from the earth.
  • The world has never ever been in debt to anyone.
  • Recessions are man made lies.

I hope my article has helped you question your negative beliefs about money and above all question the myth of scarcity.

 

Thank you for your time.

 

Sociopaths, Traits and Warnings.

With these personality types they end up touching the lives they come into contact with in negatively bizarre ways that will never easily be forgotten.

What will come out of it for anyone on the receiving end of the unusual behaviour is a very unique experience that can socially and psychologically scar for life. Narcissistic bullying is one of many traits a sociopath will use if they fail to fool those around them that are getting wiser to their lies and deceit.

They are masters at downloading your psychological make up, as well as your comings and goings, lifestyle, where you shop, how often you shop to get a good estimation of where your financial status is. They will study the socialising patterns of people around them to gauge what kind of friendship support networks they may have or be lacking and they are just a few of many things a sociopath will look at when choosing a victim.

They weigh up all the strengths and weaknesses to determine who or not is cannon fodder. They pick their targets very, very carefully to limit reprisals for themselves. There are some vulnerable people they can gauge straight away, and it is not uncommon for sociopaths to target lonely elderly people. They will move in on loners who may not have the family and friendship support networks that others more fortunate take for granted.

Once they see their victim there are no boundaries, they then dive straight in like a tourist jumps into a hotel swimming pool, once they know this particular target is a dead cert. An example i will give you here is a sociopath moves into your neighbourhood and let me tell you one thing for sure that stands exempt from doubt; ‘ Everyone will know about it, even you because they find ways to make a splash and a noise that cannot be avoided, even if you are a shoalin monk that dedicates your time to peace and meditation’.

These people make themselves easily and quickly known to those around them, with displays of attention seeking that would rock any neighbourhood on the face of this earth. What is more, they constantly want people to know that they are here and they won’t be ignored. In fact they make it impossible to ignore them, It’s as if they are saying to those around them’ No matter what i am going to make damn sure that you take notice of me, at no matter what cost, even if it compromises my own self respect i don’t care, because if you refuse to take enough notice of me i will make you pay in some way.

The behaviour of a sociopath can be quite menacing at times to the point where those who are living closest to them may end up going out when they normally wouldn’t to get away from the toxic noise and attention seeking of the sociopathic neighbour they have been unfortunately burdened with in the vicinity. As one of their neighbours you may then find yourself approaching the building where you live from a different angle if there is one in hope that this lonely attention seeking monster does not spot you and start mithering you in an unusual way. Once they feel they have their feet under the table in any situation that is when they start moving in on people and playing their games.

If a sociopath cannot use charm to get into a person’s life they may use subtle menacing aggression to incite fear into their chosen target so they will be easier susceptible to do as the sociopath wants and desires. They may invite you to their apartment and be sociable with you. Depending on how vulnerable you are they may start finding ways to scheme and scam you. One example i will give here is they may accuse you of taking and stealing something from their flat. They will say’ Well there was only you and i in the room so it could only have been you.’ You know you haven’t taken whatever it was they accused you of stealing but if you are easily frightened and intimidated by this individual they will sense it like a wild dog and persist with the false allegation until you give in and either do some sort of trade with them that is favourable to this despicable individual or you replace the alleged item that has supposedly gone missing.

Now if you are their modelled target they will then find a way to force themselves into your life if you are now making a concerted effort to avoid them at all costs. If they can get closer and closer to you that is when they can easily manipulate you and twist things in their own favour. This kind of sociopath is very formidable and very difficult for a vulnerable person to say no to. What is expected of you next from this kind of sociopath is to accept their behaviour on every level, because, after all it isn’t their fault it’s yours because you caused them to behave in these certain ways with the things you did or didn’t do that has failed the inflated expectations of this person.

They will then start comparing you by their own standards in a way that is the total opposite to everything you morally stand for. They will find ways to easily discredit you and everything you say and believe. What begins here is the dismantlement and invalidation process. They are trying to strip you of who you really are to then become a clone of them so you robotic-ally perform every action in the way they perfectly desire. In reality it is near on impossible for any other human being to live up to that expectation but the sociopath is oblivious to that simple fact of life.

That is when you fully see the toddler in an adults body. If a Three year old child doesn’t get it’s own way he or she will throw their tantrum then sulk in the corner but the adult version of this gives you no relief. It’s like dealing with a demon from hell. They will be naggingly relentless until you give in and give them their own way. But that will never be enough in the long run because such individuals have a thirst that nothing and no one will ever quench, because it doesn’t matter what you give them or what you do for them, it’s never fuckin enough.

Finally, if i could give anyone any advisable warnings and caution i would say’ If you come across any individual that displays any of these personality traits my advice would be run like the wind in the opposite direction because such people are better off avoided at all costs. You won’t change these kinds of people. Most of them actually like who they are. If one moves into your neighbourhood displaying any of these traits then move the hell away as quickly as possible, because if you don’t your life will not be the same again for a good while.

THANK YOU.

 

Spoken Words Have Power

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From very small children we are never taught how much power there is in spoken words.

This fundamental fact quite oftentimes gets overlooked, particularly in an age where you have a self-empowerment industry that has this unquenchable obsession with thoughts alone, even without considering the power of the spoken word. However, as a much younger person than i am now my tongue led me from one disaster to another, and i was totally oblivious to the real cause of my problems.

Very, very often when we come out with something negative and out of school we get people who will tell us in an off the cuff way ‘ You want to watch what you say’ and still, we do not register that warning with any idea of the implications of that truth. If we feel we are right and justified in what we are saying, even if it is negative, rather than take responsibility for the words we are putting out there we then get resentful at that very person that has, in all honesty given us one of the best pieces of advice we could ever receive.

I never saw this truth until many years after when i took stock of my life and the past experiences that were a part of it. Now a lot of determining factors at play here simply come down to the kinds of personalities that surround you in your informative years before the critical side of your brain fully develops. Were you privileged enough to have the right guidance in your life in your infant years, or did you grow up around people who had defeatist mindsets?

Environment and socio-economic¬† conditions often play a huge part in deciding, collectively the dialogue and the quality of dialogue that leaves people’s mouth’s. For example did you grow up on a council estate where everyone was poor and struggling to survive, or did you grow up amongst role models who were responsible for their lives, who always looked for solutions, rather than problems?

I ask these questions because these factors play a huge role in how our brains develop and the beliefs that become ingrained in us before we get the chance to take stock of the quality of our lives or the lack of it. If we grow up around people who have negative beliefs about money, guess what? Exactly, we automatically take on those beliefs without question. Here is a list of the negative beliefs my mother would verbally amplify every time she got her hands on any amount of money;

  • In one hand and out the other.
  • If you get any extra money there’s always another slot for it.
  • The money goes back to the rich.
  • Everything is fixed. ( when she used to talk about the lottery or the program who wants to be a millionaire)
  • Some people are not meant to have anything.
  • Wish in one hand S— in the other see what gets there first.

I won’t go any further but guess where she got those beliefs from? Exactly, those who were closest who came before her.

Now although money and your beliefs about it and what you say about it are important, this is not the only aspect of life when you consider the importance of the power of spoken words, not just the words you speak but the words that come from others in their opinions about you.

For example, as a young kid i had a fat face and i was called all sorts of names like; ‘Big head small body’ and the relentless verbal onslaughts of ‘ You’ll never get a girlfriend and you will be a virgin for the rest of your life’

I had teachers that put me down and told me that i would never amount to anything, and i would never get a job’ This latter part of these few insults was one thing i never verbally reinforced to myself as i will state later in this post, but the first part of it was taken on board fully by myself and verbally acted upon.

These negative opinions from others overwhelmed me so much before i was able to take an over arching critical view of my life in later years that i feel that i never stood a chance for the very best part of my younger years, i do not say that out of a need to be self-pitying, i say this because this was exactly how it was. On the strength of the above if you feel that this little rhyme you were given as a child of; Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me’ are correct then i advise you think again.

When you come from a background of abuse and trauma, unless you know how to become self-aware and take back control over the words you choose to speak about your life then you are going to be like a novice surfer getting smashed against the sea wall over and over again. It took me many years of self reflection and much study of many topics to come to the realisation that our words we speak are like seeds, oftentimes creating the realities we do not desire or want.

The bible itself has some great and profound teachings on this very subject i discuss with you today. Through a lack of knowledge about the power of our words we collectively become unwittingly trapped by the very words we speak, and no one intentionally sets out to be trapped by their own words on a conscious level, no. The only cause is a plain ignorance of the fact.

How my understanding began with this topic was one Christmas 2014 i read an article online about the damaging effects of complaining and how it erodes happiness. I read the article about 10 times because i was totally blown away by what it was saying and it gave me a kind of eureka moment about why my life, in part had gone the way it had. I then researched other articles on the very same subject to get as many versions of this as i could. I then watched as many YouTube videos i possibly could on this subject, as i was hungry for more and things were beginning to check out as i was now able to do a better job of taking stock of my whole life.

Prior to this i had spent decades reading self-help books that gave no clue whatsoever as to why i felt trapped. Reason being as i mentioned above that these law of attraction peddlers are selling a magic pill that they are trying to convince us is activated by a positive thought, but thoughts only have power if you verbally or physically act on them. Everyone gets negative thoughts and you won’t ever stop that, the biggest challenge like Joel Osteen says is to not give them life by speaking them out.

For everything i have ever given life to with my words has always come to pass, and i can only speak from my own life experience. I never verbally reinforced the negative prophesies of my school teachers who told me that i was never going to do this, that or the other, etc…etc…

I have found jobs and i always find work no matter what. As for my personal life that unfortunately suffered because i reinforced the negative opinions of others with my own spoken words. However, it’s not all bad news as i am now armed with the truth about the power of words thanks to the many articles i have read, the many YouTube videos i have watched and to put the icing on this cake, my continuing efforts to practise gratitude every day of my waking life.

Just one last piece of advice to you the reader of this article;

Don’t get trapped by your words, and don’t let the negative opinions of toxic ignorant people dictate to you how you choose to verbally describe your life.

May the power of the Lord Jesus Christ be with you all.

 

Social Networks

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Is with regret that Google Plus is coming to an end on April the 1st of this year.

I have enjoyed the peace and quiet of leisurely taking advantage of all the benefits that came with using the platform, one of them being a drama free experience absent of toxic individuals that project their loneliness on to other people, and the freedom of being able to choose like minded people to spend your time with online, unlike the drip drip experience of Facebook, and the never ending look at me attention seeking, grabbing personalities that come with that train wreck of an excuse for a social networking platform.

I digress, for it comes across to me that in the shadowy world of the upper echelons of managerial power in the social networking world there is some double dealing occurring here, as regards to algorithms and the proven fact that many people have opted out of platforms such as Facebook and Twitter and moved over to Google plus for some sanity, they know this and Google are quite happy to close down Google plus to appease the likes of Mark¬† Zuckerberg etal……..

What this symbolises to me is this desperate attempt by those within this authority to corner people into having no other viable options but to fall back into line and again become slaves to the sometimes toxic experiences that come to fruition while using train wreck platforms that are frequented by a high percentage of damaged, lonely individuals.

Another side to this situation is this tip toe agenda of isolating people into a narrow choice of where they spend their time online so they can be censored much easily for the things they post and say. Now as a result of Google plus deciding to close down it’s platform, i myself quite some time ago re awoken my Facebook account and went back to the dysfunction that i had previously walked away from, only to find out and realise all the things that i have mentioned above in this article.

I am a great believer that we are still entitled to the freedom of choice as to where we spend our time online and who with, just as we are entitled to choose who our friends are offline too. Now as a result of the above mentioned suspicions that i have, i decided to delete my Facebook account last night and within Thirty days of this decision everything will be deleted and i am not going back.

I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and no amount of peer group persuasion will ever draw me back. There are only so many photos of other people’s dinners you can tolerate, there are only so many posts about the school reports of other people’s children you can swallow. You get the picture if you are fed up of hearing about every single day out and holiday, plus what sized hot dog each family member had at the fairground, coupled with very lonely individuals that want you to copy and paste their brain farts about what friendship means to them……..

If this is as good as it’s going to get in the way we communicate in the Twenty First century then God help us all…………